No I dont mean midlife crisis. I mean quarter life.
People talk all the time about their 'midlife crisis'. But when I came across this book I realized there's such a thing as a quarter life crisis as well!
Basically it seems to be a phase that anyone in their early to mid twenties could go through. I guess what happens is this:
You leave school/graduate from uni and suddenly you are out in the world. When you were a student/undergrad somehow life seemed like a fun game that had undo functionality. Plus you could speed it over boring bits like earning money and pick up bonus points just by attending college parties. And you get to complain over everything in the system and dream the big dream of doing things differently when you do it.
Sure you dont really have money but who cares if you've been wearing the same jeans for ages? You're an undergrad/student. You're supposed to look messy. In fact its cool to be messy.
And then suddenly, it all ends. You graduate/leave school.
Now everyone expects you to have Big Plans for your Future. Worse you have to be responsible. Certain relationships start to go stale and you start wondering about the whole concept of 'soulmates' (?). And you worry that you dont really like your job. Not really. Even though it pays you a huge salary you wonder if thats all there is to life.
And so you find yourself looking for a reason. A meaning.
When you find none...Bummer! Yep, you're officially a candidate for Quarter Life Crisis.
It seems that it's even being recognized as a condition by therapists nowadays (!)...
But on the plus side, perhaps the quarter life crisis is a time to reflect on ourselves as individuals. Perhaps we don't need to go rushing on to meet life.
Maybe its better to spend a little time trying to figure out the map than getting lost later.
And who knows, perhaps thirty is the new twenty after all!
People talk all the time about their 'midlife crisis'. But when I came across this book I realized there's such a thing as a quarter life crisis as well!
Basically it seems to be a phase that anyone in their early to mid twenties could go through. I guess what happens is this:
You leave school/graduate from uni and suddenly you are out in the world. When you were a student/undergrad somehow life seemed like a fun game that had undo functionality. Plus you could speed it over boring bits like earning money and pick up bonus points just by attending college parties. And you get to complain over everything in the system and dream the big dream of doing things differently when you do it.
Sure you dont really have money but who cares if you've been wearing the same jeans for ages? You're an undergrad/student. You're supposed to look messy. In fact its cool to be messy.
And then suddenly, it all ends. You graduate/leave school.
Now everyone expects you to have Big Plans for your Future. Worse you have to be responsible. Certain relationships start to go stale and you start wondering about the whole concept of 'soulmates' (?). And you worry that you dont really like your job. Not really. Even though it pays you a huge salary you wonder if thats all there is to life.
And so you find yourself looking for a reason. A meaning.
When you find none...Bummer! Yep, you're officially a candidate for Quarter Life Crisis.
It seems that it's even being recognized as a condition by therapists nowadays (!)...
But on the plus side, perhaps the quarter life crisis is a time to reflect on ourselves as individuals. Perhaps we don't need to go rushing on to meet life.
Maybe its better to spend a little time trying to figure out the map than getting lost later.
And who knows, perhaps thirty is the new twenty after all!
Wow! i've been feeling this way ever since it sank in that i'm out in the real world and going to turn24 this year.. suddenly everything is so serious.. and the people in my life are seen in a different light.. everything's changing.. and i too am officially going through a 'quarter life crisis'
ReplyDeleteIt does help to have a plan. But somethings rarely work to plan. If you take the blogsphere for eg most of us, aren't sure what to do with our selves, hence we're caught up venting abt it. Good luck in finding your path.
ReplyDeleteHaha welcome to the club spider..!Feels better to know there are fellow sufferers doesn't it?...Well it did to me anyway!
ReplyDeletecharr~max: yep thats true. I'm basically not a plan-person. The thing with plans is detailed planning doesn't leave much space for improvising..But I do have a vague idea of what I want to do..more of a gut feeling really...
ha...will...see..i'll be graduating this year..so i'll remember this and Hv to read this again in 2 years to see if this is really going to happen to me..:P
ReplyDeleteerrr, should I feel worried that I've accepted that money IS the most important thing in life? You gotta admit, money is pretty useful to have :]
ReplyDeletejohn you materialistic old bastard! Haha yes I kinda thought money was God too! for a short while..back when I was basking in the glory of my First Salary!!
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