Saturday, May 24, 2008

Twenty-something (quarter life?) crisis

No I dont mean midlife crisis. I mean quarter life.

People talk all the time about their 'midlife crisis'. But when I came across this book I realized there's such a thing as a quarter life crisis as well!

Basically it seems to be a phase that anyone in their early to mid twenties could go through. I guess what happens is this:
You leave school/graduate from uni and suddenly you are out in the world. When you were a student/undergrad somehow life seemed like a fun game that had undo functionality. Plus you could speed it over boring bits like earning money and pick up bonus points just by attending college parties. And you get to complain over everything in the system and dream the big dream of doing things differently when you do it.
Sure you dont really have money but who cares if you've been wearing the same jeans for ages? You're an undergrad/student. You're supposed to look messy. In fact its cool to be messy.

And then suddenly, it all ends. You graduate/leave school.

Now everyone expects you to have Big Plans for your Future. Worse you have to be responsible. Certain relationships start to go stale and you start wondering about the whole concept of 'soulmates' (?). And you worry that you dont really like your job. Not really. Even though it pays you a huge salary you wonder if thats all there is to life.
And so you find yourself looking for a reason. A meaning.
When you find none...Bummer! Yep, you're officially a candidate for Quarter Life Crisis.
It seems that it's even being recognized as a condition by therapists nowadays (!)...

But on the plus side, perhaps the quarter life crisis is a time to reflect on ourselves as individuals. Perhaps we don't need to go rushing on to meet life.

Maybe its better to spend a little time trying to figure out the map than getting lost later.
And who knows, perhaps thirty is the new twenty after all!